026 - defining success and the principles guaranteed to help you achieve it...

The world-class Jack Canfield says that success is doing the right things, the right way, in the right order, at the right time - and there's immense truth to that. You need to find the balance between being efficient and effective, as, at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is execution and the results you achieve...

But how can we set ourselves a solid foundation for this? How can we become aware of what it is that we need to focus on in order to achieve the success we desire to see once we've identified what it is?

Enter Maxwell Maltz, and his phenomenal book Psycho-Cybernetics...

Maltz, a world-renowned plastic surgeon, noticed throughout his years that a simple change in someone's facial structures could bring about a huge change in their personality and the quality of their life... when nothing had really changed in reality, a huge shift had happened in their head

But then again, the same physical change would be made in others, yet their personality an the way they viewed themselves would stay the same - and he brought it down to the way that they viewed themselves, the mental scars they held onto, and their beliefs about themselves and the world...

He identified 7 principles for success in shifting our "self-image" and in generating the success we desire in life:

  • Sense of Direction (Goal)
    We are goal-seeking machines, we need to have something we're striving toward or we will find ourselves lacking motivation, drive, and hunger. And this goal-setting and striving to tick them off needs to be a continual process... there too many stories of people reaching the goals they set for themselves, failing to set new ones, and losing their way and losing themselves. You should seek to always have something ahead of you, always have something you're striving for. Celebrate when you achieve your goal, but look ahead and move quickly onto the next
  • Understanding
    You need to show understanding of situations as to whether something is a TRUE FACT or an OPINION of someone else. A fact is truth, like a person cracking their knuckles - whereas the opinion is someone's personal viewpoint of that situation, like thinking "they're cracking their knuckles as they're trying to annoy me". The success-type personality does not cheat or lie to other people, and learns to be honest with themselves - "it doesn't matter who is right, but what is right"
  • Courage
    Having a goal and an understanding isn't enough - you must have the courage to take action, for only by taking action can your goals become your reality... why is it that we find it so hard to believe in ourselves... why is it that we think that our failures and setbacks define us... what you need to understand is that a step in the wrong direction is natural and fine, and it's far better than staying stagnant and IN THE SAME SPOT all your life... Once you're moving forward, you can simply correct your errors as you go...
  • Charity
    Be generous to other people. Show them the love and respect that you yourself wish to receive. Be there for them, add value to their lives, and try to place their needs, wants, and desires before yours from time to time. Doing this, interestingly, has a remarkable effect on bringing the things you desire into your own life...
  • Esteem
    A quote by Matlz: " of all the traps and pitfalls in life, self-disesteem is the deadliest and the hardest to overcome, for it is a pit designed and dug by our own hands, summed up by the phrase 'it's no use, I cannot do it'"If you don't believe in yourself, who else will? You don't need to see something in order for it to be real - look at oxygen and gravity - we cannot see them, yet we know & believe in them... so why not believe in yourself? Why not have the utmost of self-esteem... You must get it through your head that holding a low opinion of yourself is one of the most vicious vices you can clasp yourself in
  • Self-Confidence
    Confidence comes from competence, and it is cultivated upon an experience of success - which makes it hard... how can you cultivate it if we've never been "successful" before? It's like going to that job and they say you need more experience - how do you get the experience if you aren't first given a chance... what you must do is try your best to remember your past successes and FORGET YOUR FAILURES - as if these failures take up the majority of our memories of our past, our self-confidence goes down the drain... you must remember that you must be willing to make mistakes, learn from them, and correct your course
  • Self-Acceptance
    This is perhaps the hardest one of all, coming to terms with who we truly are and our imperfect nature & ways... you are stronger, better, smarter and more competent now than you believe you are... creating a new image of yourself does not create new skills, it UNLOCKS & RELEASES them from inside of you. Dr Seuss was ahead of his time when he said "today you are you, that is truer than true and there is no-one alive who is youer than you". Accept yourself for who you are, and live into it

Actionable Tips/Questions:

  • Re-read over these success principles, and try to discover where you may be lacking or focusing on the wrong things. Once you've identified it, you can set and intention to change it and then take action on changing it...
Nick Maier