mindset bite #009 - the power of knowing your "why"


Everyone has a why... A reason for getting up in the morning. A reason for desiring the things they desire to do…

It’s the thing that inspires you…
It’s your purpose

It’s the thing that helps you filter everything else out and allows you to make decisions based on moving you closer toward your goals

To me, the why is your north star… it’s the thing that’s forever going to guide you through the darkest of times… forever inching you closer toward that which you desire to do

Be it making the representative squad…
Be it improving your grades in a specific subject…
Be it shooting for that dream job you desire…
Be it living a life of service to others…

Your why will always keep you on the right path toward achieving this

My personal favourite way to explain this to our Academy kids is this: “picture is the middle of winter, freezing cold, and it’s 4:30am in the morning and you’ve got to get up and go train. It’s the last thing you want to to, all you want to do is pull the covers back up and go back to sleep… but your why is the driving force that gets you out of bed and to training… it’s the inner fire that drives you forward… what’s that thing for you?

I’ve got two personal Why’s for why I do what I do with The Academy. These are the reasons I push myself to the brink, why I work so hard, make all the sacrifices and showcase the discipline I do… they’re the reasons we’re here to build these next generations and provide them with nothing but the very best in order to guide and support them in life

The first is to give back to my parents, as they have given me the entire world. That one is simple. To be able to send them on a holiday, show them some form of appreciation for what they’ve done, even though it will never be enough or do it justice

The second is due to my past… I was an overweight, borderline obese child and teen - but I was blessed to represent Newcastle in Cricket, and Newcastle & NSW in Baseball. This saw me have the opportunity to attend a Training Camp with the then MLB Team, Florida Marlins, back in 2005. I was 15, at an MLB Team’s training camp, and thought all of my dreams were coming true - yet an atrocious mindset saw that opportunity slip through my fingers. I stopped working when I got there and enjoyed it far too much

I was devastated. I was young. I was naive

I thought the reason I didn’t do well was my weight - so I set about doing everything I could trying to change that. I went deep into the internet and magazines to learn everything I could about losing weight and training - and I did…

I lost close to 40kg over the course of a single summer - and for the next 12 months battled anorexia, orthorexia, depression and suicidal thoughts. I was in the deepest depths of hell…

I have an amazing support network however, and they helped me see what it was that I was doing. They helped me see the light. And from that I learned from some of the best strength coaches in the world like Zach Even-Esh, Dave Tate, Jim Wendler, Jay Ferruggia, and Luka Hocevar - focusing on strength and performance over all else. I enrolled into a Nutrition & Dietetics degree for better understand nutrition and threw myself into learning about the brain, mindset, and self-development

And I made a vow that no kid would ever have to endure what I did - that I would to everything in my power to help build them up and provide them with the guidance and support they wholeheartedly deserve to help them become the people and athletes they aspire to become

That’s me, and that’s my WHY - and as I sit here typing it, I get goosebumps and emotion crashes over me

That’s what you’re looking for, something like that… a deep-rooted reason for why you desire to achieve that which you want

So, what’s your why…


Actionable Tips/Questions:

  • Sit down with a pen and paper in a quiet space, and think about why you’re doing what you’re doing… and when you think you have it, ask why again and go deeper…

  • Keep asking why and delving deeper until you get to the true, deep-rooted reason of why you’re doing what you do and want to achieve the goals/things you’re setting yourself...

Nick Maier