058 - befriending the little man who lives inside your head...

There's a book I'm about to throw myself into called "Mental Toughness Training for Sports" by Dr Jim Loehr, for the sole reason that an excerpt from it grasped me and shook me sideways. It's an interesting insight into how we can better understand ourselves, the self-narrative we tell ourselves about ourselves, and how to overcome that little man who lives in your head and make him your best friend

Enter Jim:
"The power broker in your life is the voice that no one ever hears. How well you revisit the tone and content of your private voice is what determines the quality of your life. It is the master storyteller, and the stories we tell ourselves are our reality"

Two parts. Firstly, the power broker in your life is the voice that no one ever hears - it is what determines the thoughts you have and, therefore, the actions you take. Everything you do in life is controlled by this voice, this little man - he tells you whether you can or you can't - so you need to make him your best friend and not your worst enemy. The best news that once you're aware of this you can begin winning him over...

Secondly, the stories we tell ourselves are our reality - you get to create your own reality... what you believe to be true about yourself and the world is what you will "see" to be true. 

From these, you should begin to see that the stories we tell ourselves about what's happening around us and for us begin to shape the way we view it... and it's summed up perfectly by world-class long-distance runner Haruki Murakami:

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Say you're running and you think "Man this hurts, I can't take it anymore." The "hurt" part is an unavoidable reality, but whether or not you can stand anymore is up to you yourself"

If you desire to reach your goals and aspiration, to have more, do more, and be more, it all begins with the voice inside your head that no one else hears, the little man...

Actionable Tips + Questions:

  • What's happening inside your own head, is it a negative or a positive story most of the time? How's your confidence and self-belief? Is the little man inside your head a dick, or is he nice and encouraging? If he's not, know & understand that you can change this right now, right this very second - it's not easy, but it is doable. And remember, you don't need to see something in order to believe in it or for it to be real, so begin making the conscious choice to believe in yourself and your potentials/abilities, not fighting for your limitations
Nick Maier