055 - confusing advice to seek more stress
I'll be honest that I'm a teeny bit ashamed of how long it took me in my life to acknowledge this fact as truth, and it's cost me a few years I think - but I'm grateful I'm on the right path with it now
And it's the relationship that we have with stress, and how much we try to minimise it in our lives. We make it out to be the bad guy and aim to live a completely stress-free life sipping pina colada's on the beach, working off our laptops
Unfortunately, this is terrible advice, as stress is something we need in life. And it was first brought to my attention in 2014 when I first read the book "The 4 Hour Workweek" - in it, author Tim Ferriss states the difference between distress and eustress
"Distress refers to harmful stimuli that make you weaker, less confident, and less able. Destructive criticism, abusive bosses, and smashing your face on a curb are examples of this. These are things we want to avoid.
Eustress, on the other hand, is a word most of you have probably never heard. Eu-, a Greek prefix for “healthy,” is used in the same sense in the word “euphoria.” Role models who push us to exceed our limits, physical training that removes our spare tires, and risks that expand our sphere of comfortable action are all examples of eustress—stress that is healthful and the stimulus for growth."
We need stress in our lives as it's what helps us grow. Like we need to place our muscles and bodies under stress to allow them to grow back stronger and bigger, we need calculated stress in our lives too
Dr. Jim Loehr is a world-renowned performance psychologist who knows this better than most. Seeking stress is something he tells all of his clients and affiliates to do - including Olympic gold medallists, professional athletes, FBI Hostage Teams, and many more...
Loehr has given his life to this concept of stress and has found that the more he tries to protect himself, or others from it, all that happens is their capacity to handle the stress erodes
Stress exposure is the stimulus for ALL GROWTH, and growth occurs during the period of recovery. Avoiding stress only serves to minimise our abilities to handle the demands that life throws our way - it weakens us
In essence, to grow in life, you must be a seeker of stress. Working harder in the gym, pushing harder in training, aiming for a higher grade at school, pushing the envelope in your time away from everything with whatever excites you
You have to get outside your comfort zone, push your envelope, and watch it bend in front of your eyes...
Actionable Tip + Question:
- Am I currently avoiding stress and living inside of my comfort zone? If so, why? What am I scared of afraid of/what's the reason I'm doing this?
- What are 1-3 things I can do find a little more stress in my training, school, studies, or something I desire to learn and get better at?