054 - life will go faster than you know
There's the old adage that life goes faster the older you get. I never used to understand nor believe it, but now I see where all of the adults are coming from
Seriously, it seems like just yesterday it was Christmas and New Year, and now, January has already come and gone. You have two choices, however, to let this be the case and wander aimlessly by as it does, not giving any attention to it, or you can become aware of it, accept it for what it is, and use it to drive you forward each and every day
I'm currently reading "Tribe of Mentors" by Tim Ferriss, and there's a section on a man named Mike Maples Jr, a partner in a venture capital firm named Floodgate who has exceptional take on life, its speed, and how to counteract it (note: below is an excerpt from the book)
"Life will go faster than you know. It will be tempting to live a life that impresses others. But this is the wrong path. The right path is to know that life is short, every day is a gift, and you have certain gifts.
Happiness is about understanding that the gift of life should be honoured every day by offering your gifts to the world.
Don't let yourself define what matters by the dogma of other people's thoughts. and even more important, don't let the thoughts of self-doubt and chattering self-criticism in your own mind slow you down. You will likely be your own worst-critic. Be kind to yourself in your own mind. Let your mind show you the same kindness that you aspire to show others."
Live your own life on your terms, not other people - and aim to be your own best friend, not your own worst enemy. There's a quote by Aubrey Marcus, CEO and Founder of "Onnit" that reads "we wouldn't allow other people to talk to us the way we do ourselves, so why do we accept it from ourselves?"
If somebody called you dumb, a loser, incapable and a failure - you'd fight back at them and not accept nor tolerate it. So don't tolerate it from yourself. Accept and love yourself for the individual you are and the unique gifts and skills you bring to this world
Don't defeat yourself with self-doubt and self-criticism before you've even tried. And don't live life by the thoughts or standards of other people
Actionable Steps + Questions:
- Am I currently my own best friend, or am I my own worst enemy shouting doubt and criticism at myself? If so, how can I be more loving to myself and begin to build my own confidence & belief? Remember, something doesn't need to be seen in order for it to exist for us to believe in it...
- Are you currently chasing goals and a life that you want, or are you chasing the goals of other people/what you think you should want?