029 - how to start anything...


If life were like sports, we'd have other people and things to tell us when to start. There'd be the sound of the hooter, the blow of the whistle, or the call of the umpire. Unfortunately in life, however, the onus is on us to start by ourselves - and it's one of the hardest things to do

Back in 2012 I was in New Zealand, and I got to experience skydiving - it was one of the best things I've ever done. My best mate bungee jumped instead, and afterwards, he thought I was the brave one for jumping out of a plane... I don't see it this way, however, as I had someone else controlling me in a sense, I was attached to a pro, and wherever he went, I went - I had no real say in the matter

I was being told when to start...

In his case, however, he was the one who had to jump. And I told him that had I been the one bungee jumping, I'd probably still be standing at the top with the rope tied around my ankles. He was the braver one, as he overcame his fear by himself

Why do we find it so hard to take the first step? Why do we find it so hard to start? There's always fear, uncertainty, and the negative stories we tell ourselves, and there always will be - it's not having less of these, it's knowing how to overcome them and get them out of the way

For my mate Jamie, it was the love of adrenaline that got him over the line. For me now, it's a shift in seeing fear for what it truly is, and showing courage in the face of it. And for Mel Robbins, it's simply counting down "5, 4, 3, 2, 1" in her head and then taking action - and excellent tool to have in your belt for the psychological shift doing this causes as it takes your mind off your fear, and turns its focus on what really matters

I remember meeting every single one of our phenomenal Academy Kids - and it's always the same story that first time around. They're scared and uncomfortable, they're hiding in their shell, as they have no idea what to expect - which is completely natural. Once they know what they're in for they begin to relax, their true selves come out, and they begin to enjoy the experience. And here's the kicker to this, if they didn't start they would have never known what it was like

We all get stuck in our heads, telling ourselves stories of what might or could happen... and if we stay there, we're dead - as we will never get outside of ourselves and we will never grow

What are you putting off at the moment? What is it that you just can't start? Are you telling yourself the story that you don't know where to begin... Or perhaps it's that you're not good enough and you could never do anything like "that"...

I'm sorry, but they're all BS excuses that are holding you back and keeping you grounded

Starting something new is possibly the hardest thing we can try to do in life. As we've got to overcome ourselves in the process...

The answer is there is no perfect way or perfect time to start. The answer is you'll never truly be ready. The answer is to begin now, to press the buzzer and jump on in

And one of the best ways I've found that you can begin is to think up of what this lack of action is costing you...

You won't go and trial for that NPL side, well it's costing you the chance to ever tick off that goal you have to become a professional footballer...
You won't go and try that new style of training, well it's costing you the chance to learn from a phenomenal teacher and develop yourself physically and mentally...
You don't know how to begin writing that assignment, well it's costing you the chance to get a great grade that will help you get into the career you want to get into

Sometimes the thought of this brings about more emotion, and therefore more action with it. We want to run away from the thought of that pain - and you can use that to your advantage


Actionable Tips + Questions:

  • What am I putting off doing at the moment out of fear or excuses that I don't know what to do? Where am I holding myself back?
  • What is this lack of action, this inability to start really costing me in the future?
  • What are 1-3 simple and easy steps I can take to begin? 
Nick Maier