mindset bite #023 - how to discover what you want to do with your life


“But I have no idea what to do”, said Matt…

All I could do was sit there…
Wide-eyed and speechless…
Like a deer caught in headlights

Matt stared at me, and our eyes met

You could see the hope in his eyes… A hope that I somehow held a magical answer to his question and problem

And all of a sudden. It just blurted out of my mouth

“F*ck me, Matt. Neither do I”

But the funny thing is, there I was — 27yrs old — and Matt was about to turn 15…

And here he was angry, at himself for not knowing what to do with the rest of his life…

AT 15-YEARS OF AGE

It’s okay not knowing exactly what you need to do in any given situation… especially at that age

At 23 I was a failing uni student who ran away to Europe and had NO FREAKING IDEA what the hell I wanted to do in my life. I was stuck in the middle of a degree I got into for the wrong reasons and was lost...

It wasn't until I was 25 that I discovered what it was that I truly desired to do - and it wasn't until 26 that I worked up the courage to pursue it...

You've got so much time... The main part is pressing the buzzer and jumping in — taking massive action

There will never be a perfect time, a perfect situation, or a perfect opportunity

Too many people get so caught up in the “why” — the thinking portion — that they never get to the “how” stage of taking action

It’s okay to not know if something will work or if it’s the right path to take…

That’s called being human…

The positive in the situation is that you’re in the process of taking action

I cannot begin to fathom how we can force such pressure down our children’s throats when it comes to the likes of the HSC and going to uni.. all to be a cog in someone else’s wheel

The thought pattern this creates is unexplainable, as there is so much more to life than this

At this young age, you should be accumulating experiences and finding your passion

I’ve done the whole uni thing… and I learned more through my own self-conducted learning than I did within the confines of that ‘educational’ institution

Here I stand now, 27yrs old, and I still hold no concrete idea of exactly where my future is going

All I know is that until the day I pass on — I will be helping these next generations and adding value to their lives to help them develop themselves

Until then, I’ll be a student of life… And do the things that interest me and allow me to add even more value

So, to all you “Matt’s” out there — it’s okay if you don’t know the answer

You can throw yourself into a myriad of different things that excite you for years to discover what you truly want to chase...

Keep your eyes and ears open…
Be a student of life and go deep into that which excites you…

Do that, and in time, the “answer” will find you


Actionable Tips/Questions:

  • Be kinder to yourself. Forgive yourself more. Stop worrying, and let go of the thought that you need to know what your future looks like and where it's going - as the truth is, none of us truly know for certain
  • Think about what it is that excites you more than anything else, and something you want to discover more about - then throw yourself into it and see if it's truly for you
Nick Maier