028 - how to believe in the things you cannot see...


There are two young fish swimming along, and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way who says, "morning boys, how's the water..."

The two young fish swim on for a bit until eventually, one looks at the other and says "what the hell is water"

Technically, the fish cannot see the water, nor can it comprehend what it truly is, but it exists…

The point is - the most obvious, important realities of life are often the ones that are hardest to see and talk about...

And there is so much power within this, as it helps to pose the question...

“does something need to be seen in order for it to truly exist, to truly be ‘real’”

We cannot see oxygen, but we believe in it and it fuels us…
We cannot see gravity, yet we believe it exists and it keeps us grounded...
The fish is always last to know that it’s in water... It simply is

And so, who’s to say that there’s no power within some of these other “truths” we cannot see…

Who’s to say that ‘BELIEF’ in oneself doesn’t truly hold the key to achieving the goals and aspirations we all set ourselves

When you look at those we deem as “successful”, one glaring commonality between them is that the foundation they build themselves on is one of an unrivalled confidence and belief in themselves

It’s a cliche, but we know cliches are true… And if you choose to not believe in yourself, nobody else will

...what if there’s truth behind our current thoughts shaping our future realities…

What if we CHOSE to believe in that... Like we do in oxygen, gravity, and so much more...

What if we began to believe so much in ourselves & our potential that we match our behaviours and actions with this newfound belief

Perhaps we’d find this “secret” we’re all hopelessly searching for…

A hidden secret that is, in fact, right in front of our eyes

Like oxygen is…
Like gravity is…
Like water is to fish...

The “hidden secret” that is a belief in ourselves and the truth that our potential truly is nearly limitless...

And so, instead of ostracising young athletes/adolescents...
Showing them solely their perceived "limitations"... 
And breaking them down

Imagine the endless possibilities that would arise from focusing on developing, cultivating, and building the utmost of confidence and belief in themselves...
Building them up...
And showing them the true potential of their current + future abilities

The funniest thing happens when we see confidence and self-belief for what they truly are - choices - we choose to be confident and we get to choose to have belief in ourselves... as even when everything is going wrong and it feels like the weight of the world is upon my shoulders, I can be confident simply because I decide and choose to be...

We can stand a little taller. Puff out that chest a little more. Put a smile on our face, take up more space and begin to think positively... even if inside we don't quite believe it - imagine the image this portrays to those around you...

Imagine walking onto the field with your head high, a smile on your face, looking like you're having the utmost of fun and knowing that you deserve to be there... Imagine what message that sends to the opposition, and imagine what doing this will do for you on a long enough timeline...

Believe in yourself. You're worth it


Actionable Tip/Question:

  • On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest) how would I truthfully rate my confidence and belief in myself? Why is it this way, what could I do to increase it?
  • Play a game with yourself to catch yourself quickly when you have thoughts that carry low confidence, and shift them as soon as you can... soon you'll catch yourself in the act and be able to shift immediately
  • What experiences in my past can I draw confidence and self-belief from? Have these on hand as your "go-to's" in times of need
  • Make a decision right now to make a conscious change, to decide and choose to be more confident
Nick Maier