mindset bite #010 - cooperation, not competition


Kendrick Farris is a world-class Olympic Weightlifter. He's competed at multiple Olympic Games and is a phenom in the sport. He's also a phenom on Instagram, and there's a post he put up that, personally I love, but caused a ton of controversy at the same time...

The photo was of a blank, white square...
The caption read, "my competition "...

Now, people thought he meant that his competition was nothing and that he was showboating, etc... but what he was really trying to portray was that he had no competition, that his competition was he himself

That when he stepped into the arena, when he stepped onto the platform, the only person he was trying to better and outdo was the man he was the last time he competed

That was his focus - on himself and what he was doing, not others and what they were doing

And this is so goddam incredibly powerful for the next generations. There is NO such thing as competition in a sense, there is only cooperation... cooperating to better ourselves, compete with ourselves, and out-do ourselves...

And that should be everyone's goal at the end of the day - out-do yourself...

Your potential, the absolute best you're capable of - that's the only metric you should ever measure yourself against

In his book "The Four Agreements", Don Miguel Ruiz argues that we should always strive to give our best, whatever that is at that moment in time, as it's all we could ever ask of ourselves

Cooperation via the sharing of knowledge and skills so that we may all level up in life. It's about adding value to others lives, and in turn, adding value to our own. As remember, life goal #1 is to be a good f*cking human, forever and always

Years ago, I was at a marketing event, and everyone was essentially saying the same thing "give your best stuff away for free, it's the best form of marketing"... then I heard Russell Brunson say it, and Tim Ferriss, and Tony Robbins, and all of these great people we look up to. The collective groan and disgruntlement from the crowd showcased their scarcity mindset, as they thought to be cooperative and giving their best stuff away for free would mean that their competition would then have their "secret sauce" and they'd be run out of business...

The thing is, their competition didn't have them or their businesses... and knowledge is only potential power, it's taking action on it that matters most

When you compete with yourself you force your focus to be on you & that which you can control - which is an incredibly powerful position to be in. The other people who are performing are going to do what they're going to do, and it's on you to focus on yourself in order to do a better job than they did... 


Actionable Tips/Questions:

  • Do I lose my focus when competing by wondering what others will do and are capable of? How can I bring my focus back to solely on myself and what I am capable of?
  • Where have I withheld knowledge or not helped in the past due to a worry that passing on knowledge/helping would make the other person "better" than me...
Nick Maier