mindset bite #003 - control only that which you can control


Control. It’s what we all want. It makes us feel powerful. But it’s seeking this control that breeds birth to a multitude of the unsolicited problems we face in life…

Trying to control what your friends want to do…
Trying to control how someone reacts to a specific situation…
Trying to control whether you get the job or not…

All are impossible and only leave us feeling frustrated, angry, and depressed

There’s only one thing we can control in this life - and it’s us

Our thoughts… our feelings... our emotions... our actions and behaviours... our habits

We don’t control what happens, we control our response to that stimulus

Viktor Frankl survived Auschwitz and noticed that for a person to survive, they had to have a reason, or a why, to live on…

He noticed something else too, and this quote sums it up perfectly: “Between stimulus and response there’s a space. In that space, there’s the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Everything can be taken from a man except for one thing, the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”

Everything in life is a choice. And the choice in every single situation is yours to make…

In short, as Napoleon Hill once said, you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. You’re in control of you…

And with this responsibility comes an immense amount of power. Everything that happens to you from now on in your life, and I mean everything, is your fault

How? Why?

Because there’s always something you can do to change it. There’s always a decision, or a different response that can be chosen, or could have been made in the past, that will change the reality you have right now or in the future

Take ownership of your life. Take ownership of how you decide to respond to the things you do and the things that happen to you. Take ownership of your thoughts and the words you choose to use

Take ownership of your training, your recovery, your relationships and your academic life. If you can grasp this now, you’re already miles ahead of the rest of the young athletes & adolescents your age

Control only that which you can control, and let everything else fall as it may

Nick Maier